Saturday, May 2, 2015

Role Play Prejudice Much?

Someone raised a provocative topic over on Facebook today.    I found it good timing as I've been running around the Fantasy Faire a lot lately and ironically had just posted a pic using my av Kara, together with my MAlt (male alt) MitchL.  Both are in fantasy attire in the Fantasy Fair sims.  While I was not actually role playing with them for the most part, they were running around the sims together checking things out and taking pics. 

The Facebook post started with someone indicating they've been chastised for role playing alternative types of avatars.  I couldn't help but respond with a long opinion as I love to enjoy a wide variety of things in SL myself. Along the same lines (sort of) I've been wanting to again blog about all the "good" things about SL besides just sex and griefing that seems to get a ton of media attention because the Relay for Life fundraising is absolutely phenomenal in SL. Plus there is a lot of RL education, music, art, social connection for those with disabilities, etc opportunities going on, but I digress. 

I'd post the direct link to the Facebook thread but can't seem to get the FB Surl to the exact spot.   It's actually in the Second Life group though today so you might find it and all the many comments here:

Anyway.. back to the post.. it starts with the origination of the post by Nick Morgan saying:

Nick:  "To all the people giving me a hard time I am getting tired of it
I am adult I can't rp a kid I am accused or being a pedophile I assure I am not
I am male and I can't rp female I get accused of being gay I am not
I am white and I can't rp black I get accused of being racist I am not
can't roleplay an animal I get accused or being weird
what do you roleplay yourself where's the fun in that I thought second life was about pretending
get an imagination" (sic)

Most of the many responses encouraged the author to play who and how he (he's identified himself as a RL male so I'll go with that) wants to play and not let others dictate how he plays.  There were a few crack a few jokes about furrys etc, but for the most part the responses were positive. I've always believed the SL population in general is pretty accepting really.  I've for the most part only seen real prejudices against child avs and a little about some abusive type behaviors rather than "lifestyles" in general.  I have however heard jokes cracked about a variety of alternative looks or behaviors such as overly wide derrieres, some of the animal avatar behavior including milking/cows, etc, animal sex, etc. But for the most part from what I've seen anyway some people might look twice but generally go on about their own merry way leaving people to play who and how they want recognizing this is SL and not first life.  Some things are actually against TOS and might be considered illegal as well especially if an avatar is in SL underage.  I am also aware there has been age play so that ruins it for those who just like to play with a childlike heart and body.  I lived in a wonderful huge family community in SL for a while and I have to say the many many families there were wonderful people and the children were very cute and added a great deal to the community in a variety of ways. Again I digress... so anyway .. back to my response.. here it is:

me: "Pfft.. I play all that and more, and I'm all adult female in RL. For the most part I don't care what anyone thinks about my SL.. my SL is about fun. But I stay primarily a female woman in SL and when I am anything other than adult female I don't have sex, I don't misbehave towards others, I don't lead people on, or misrepresent who I really am to friends etc. I have had no problems whatsoever with my friends or strangers in SL when I am having my alternate fun. I identify only with my female av and the others are like dolls, for fun, etc and they are very fun to dress up, style, take pics of, and yes, get a little goofy role playing differently. That's part of the beauty of SL, we can be what we want and all the uniqueness makes it more interesting. I doubt anyone looks like their av RL. But I'm always upfront to my friends that the alternate is me so there is no confusion. This is because we form real friendships and connections in SL and a small bit of that is trust the person you are close to is who they say they are. I do get that some people think some alternative types of avs are odd because they can be misused in SL. That's just my opinion though. As Izzy said another idea that works for some is not to tell anyone. I used to feel like if someone does get close to me and has an appearance that is vastly different or even misrepresents their RL, then I simply do NOT want to find out later and I don't want my friends or others to know either as I will feel deceived and played. Some people RP but really "play" like real life while others are in constant RP so don't "get" how this might feel bad or like a person is being deceived. We would like others to play how we do but of course everyone plays their own way. If I am not close to someone I don't care but if I am close, even if they don't look or act remotely close to what they would in RL, to an extent I'd still like to be aware of that if I have formed a real bond. It doesn't mean I would give them a hard time though. Plus there are rules about age play, just saying, so with that I get why ppl would be upset. I think it depends what people are doing with their alternative forms. This would make a good blog topic."

And so now I'm blogging it. 

The next post down Tess Stanley-Hannah/Ivey Deschanel in SL (yes I got her permission to quote her) said: "I have 2 words for that and excuse the french but FUCK them. SL is one place where you can experience your dreams and fantasies without being judged. Most of the people I know, some of them now SL "big wigs" spent their first years of SL on a pole or RPing everything under the sun from furries to demons to kids to multi appendaged stocking fetish,horse milkers. I guarantee you everyone who has something negative to say has a LOT of closet skeletons themselves and simply find bigoted pleasure in being the SL morality police. Find like minds who understand and care about you and mute or block the rest. THEY DON'T MATTER -hugs-"     

 I think that sums things up nicely!

There are a whole lot of things to consider in this including how people "play" vs "roleplay" etc.  Of course many people insist on voicing at least once to get a sense of the person they are engaging with, so that says a lot of people DO care to an extent who they are playing with.

Others posts on the thread say things like: It's your SL, live it to the fullest, don't be bothered with haters, have fun, enjoy, be who you want, etc.    Personally I wish I had thought through a better post but in review I guess what I said for the most part covers my opinion on the subject.  Obviously this is a subject many are passionate about based on the large number of responses.  One person even said they role play as a human, but not saying what they are in real life.  hahah.. I'll end on that note and with my picture of me and MitchL my alt. : )

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Fallen Gods and Dandelion Daydreams Factory for Fantasy Faire and Relay for Life

Visit Dandelion Daydreams Factory here:
in Fantasy Faire here:

I'm still sorting through blogger packages for the Fantasy Faire as previously blogged.  I came across 2 very different types of full avatars that are unique and delightful.  The first is a gacha item from Dandelion Daydreams Factory and is one of 15 unique "Paper Poppets".  These whimsical full avatars look just like paper dolls.  They bend and move and have just a tiny bit of depth to them.  They have tabs on the back that give the appearance of paper clothes on paper dolls. They are ony 149L each at the promo price found at the main sim link above.  The sim itself is gorgeous to explore too.  I'll just copy their sim info. here as it says it well... "Coolest place ever...
Play, Relax, Enjoy ! Home to Fantavatar & Moonstruck, Lilith's Den, [ Oblivion ], The Wishbringer Quest,   Adventure,  Romance, Hangout, Forest, , nature, Fantasy, shopping, Dance, Photography, Eternal Love Hunt, Green Rose Manor, cuddle, romantic".  Owned by Runa/alrunia ahn Luna Barak, a real talent in SL.  If you put on your doll be sure to play around in Poppetsborough in the Fantasy Faire as they have a whole little town built in the same style that is super cute-see 2nd direct link above.

Visit Fallen Gods here:
They sponsor the Odyssey section of Fantasy Faire here:

Next I found these petite sea sprites by Fallen Gods.  Fallen Gods is very well known in SL for their amazing fantasy skins and other things fantasy.  Their current sim info. reads, "Explore and enrich your Second Self with a look that can flow from elf to werewolf, from demon to pixie, from fae to drow, from mermaid to vampire, from angel to human... Fantasy skins, shapes, eyes, outfits, tattoos, petites. Libertine Furniture."  Alia Baroque's profile states......Owner and Creator of Fallen Gods Inc., Libertine and the Arcipelagus.  This is also a great sim to explore.  The adorable Fallen Gods sesa sprites for Fantasy Faire are super cute petite avatars and although they are sea sprites I added some fun ~Nomiki's Creations~ Misty Fae wings to make mine a bit fairy like and Wasabi Pills petite mesh hair to match.  This designer truly has some absolutely beautiful skin, and even some horrifying demons too! This place is not to be missed.

Below pic is the original ad from Fallen Gods (bottom pic is not taken by me)

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

AZUL Pepek'e for Fantasy Faire, Relay for Life

One of my fav Fantasy Faire Relay for Life designs is, not surprisingly, from Azul, one of my favorite dress makers in Second Life.  I'm wearing one of two exclusive, pre-release items that Mami Jewell has created with profits to be donated 100% to RFL during the Fantasy Faire 2015. This dress includes the wings and attached butterflies.
▬ Event: Fantasy Faire 2015
▬ Event Dates: April 23rd 2015 until May 3rd 2015
▬ -AZUL- @ Fantasy Faire 2015 SLURL:

Style Info:
Dress/Wings/butterflies: Azul Pepek'e for Fashion For Life
Hair: Rezology Flava
Feet: Gaeline Tip Toe Bare Feet
Eyelashes: Irresistible Look by Crissy Designs
Skin: Dream Ink Arianna
Location: Fantasy Faire

Other Azul information here:
▬ -AZUL- on SL:
▬ -AZUL- on SL Marketplace:
▬ -AZUL- on Facebook:
▬ -AZUL- on Flickr [Releases]:
▬ -AZUL- on Flickr [Your Posts!]:
▬ -AZUL- on Pinterest:
▬ -AZUL- on Twitter:
▬ -AZUL- on Google+:

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

UNIA by MadPea Now Open!

Visit here:
Here is how to play:

The long awaited UNIA by Madpea opened today, well yesterday, but it was today when I started.  Yes, it's addicting.  Yes, it's challenging.  Yes, it's filled with great scenery, animations, mystery, special fx and builds/parts by great artists like Bryn Oh and Rebeca Bashly etc. as promised.  I've been at it a few hours now and I've just figured out it's going to be a few more.. another day, because I have to get some sleep then work too. 

As usual you buy a hud (3 hud/startup levels to chose from) and tp into the the "game" if you want to call it that.  From there you have to just be like a curious explorer clicking everything, remembering clues, picking up objects, eventually fighting things if you want to, and basically trying to figure things out. I would highly recommend checking out the "how to play" link above before forging ahead.  It will save you time and frustration in the long run.

TWICE I got sorta got stuck and staff in the group told me I was actually in almost "end places" that were close to the end and I had managed to miss some things/places that would successfully get me to  those spots in the correct order in which to advance successfully.  So besides being killed repeatedly and sort of having to kind of start over I was doing ok.  And lets just say you don't want to be sent to the empty barn. It's like a time out and you've basically been killed.  But lucky us, we get to just go right back in with all our accumulated stuff after our time out.

So my hud is full of tools/things I'll need to continue on.  I have an idea of what I need to do yet and where to go to do it, and I have a great start.   Just before I felt I needed to quit for the night/morning, I ran into an old friend Sugar Silverstar who was back for her new day to continue playing.  She summed up how I feel about it when she said, "Sugar Silverstar: god  I love it.  I'm torn between wanting to solve it and not wanting it to finish."  And when I asked, she said I could quote her.  So my game will be prolonged as it's bed time for me now.. well a few hours ago.  I'll leave you with some photos though.... enjoy the game.  It's great : )

Just when you think you have it covered, you find the white hall.. and so so many doors with worlds more to explore and figure out.. hehe.. I'm loving it.

Saturday, April 25, 2015

The Trap is Trapped for Relay for Life

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Calling all Mateys…. arrrggg  I need your help!

The Relay for Life Tribute City team has decided I’ve been a naughty bad girl, so bad they want to lock me up.  No, It’s not BDSM time.  It’s Jail & bail me out time with all bail  $L raised going toward my release (In this case aka: Relay for Life).  I’ve heard they plan to throw me in the brig aboard a grand pirate ship.  The word on the street is they will send out their pirate skiptracers to apprehend me around 1pm SLT Sunday April 26 and I’m told if I don’t comply they might just make me walk the plank.  My freedom lies in the hands of the generous people of SL.   I would try to beg and list all my good qualities and reasons you should stop in and add to my bail for my release but since I can’t think of any I’ll rely on the Relay for Life good cause reason.  Everyone knows I can’t sit still too long in SL, so If I’m stuck in the brig for long I might just have to think up something interesting to keep myself and any lookyloos entertained and I’m thinking if I spend enough time looking deep enough I might just find a thing or two in my inventory to make an interesting jail break after a while.   There might also be blogging or filming going on, yes, most likely there will be.   Please come on out and bring (L$) any loose pennies, nickels, or dimes you can scrounge up out of your mesh sofa  that I can add up,  or if you are broke just come out, bring friends, and laugh at me in lockup,  keep me company, or roam the deck and enjoy the high seas with friends or break your bank and bring some cold hard cash, because I’m broke and I heard my bond will be set between 10K and 50K Sunday April 24th at 1pm SLT here:
(ps, I really do need your help because I’ve heard there have been bribes to keep me in the brig vs getting me out ~sigh)

Friday, April 24, 2015

The Dirty Grind Live Music Lineup for Sunday

Visit here:

One of my fav live music venues is having a great lineup Sunday including a duel stream you won't want to miss.  Not only do they have great live music but the sim is a fun explore. Check it out.

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Fantasy Faire is Open!

The Fantasy Faire 2015 opened in Second Life today!

Visit the official Fantasy Faire web site for additional info. on a variety of things like the hunt, sponsors, literary festival, silent and live auction, contests, jail and bail, and calendar of special events and entertainment and so much more:

* * Fantasy Faire 2015, April 23 – May 3* * A Benefit for the American Cancer Society

I collected some pictures in the fair and direct links here

Visit the main Faireland Junction by Cerridwens Cauldron here:
(Main landing where you can see the names of the various sections and tp)

Visit Vallacia sponsored by Epic Toy Factory here:
(the cool area with the colorful boats)

Visit IchieGo IchiE by The Looking Glass here:
(super beautiful fairy type land)

Visit Aurrora by Neo Victoria here:
(This has the large FF logo)

Visit Odyssey by Fallen Gods here:

Visit Puppetsborough by Dandelion Daydream Factory here:

Visit Poseidon's Abyss Fantasy Faire 2015 Arts & Entertainment here:
(Don't miss the cool underwater area and pick up some gifts)

Visit Spires of Andolys by Dwarfins here:

Visit Sylvan of Spells by Merchants of Dreams here:

Visit Tangleshimmer Grove by The Roawenwood here:
(the FF in stone circle)

Visit Wildehaven Marsh by Solarium here:

Visit YoZakura by Fuubutsu Dou here:
(Asian garden with dragon on mt.)

Visit Ravenshold, The Lost Land Hunt here:

Once again the builds are so much fun for me.  The products are super cute.  And the event is for a great cause, Relay for Life.  What's not to love?  Check it out.